Thursday, May 18, 2006

Quarter-life Crisis

Maybe we all r going through this "Being Twenty-Something".
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as "confused" as you, often musing the same things about you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone, scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out....... its upto to you.... derive roses out of thorn beds or make rose petals seem synonymous to thorns... chao...

6 comments:

desperado said...

beautiful piece...one of ur best..n why i loved it ..cause it contained none of the lofty n big words that you use so easily but it contained only thoughts

arre yaar meri vocab thodi weak hai isliye aisa keh raha hoon..dont take it otherwise..hehe

nice one again

Anonymous said...

how true! everything written there is so real. we often find ourselves haunted by such thoughts , but many a times inside we r not even sure that whether we mean it or not . And this is happening today........ i mean in 20 somethings.An interesting phase where "phase reversals" are inevitable.
At times we act as an iconoclast and in a moment we find ourselves docile appreciating the alacrity in the air.We feel as insecure .....and sometimes stranded too. Mayb the only reason behind it that we are looking out for continous manifestations in the crowd...and sometimes in want of praise ( which is an "illusion" and we know that very well). Everytime reality transcends our perception. Our grievances leads us to here............... which unfortunately assails our conceit. weird isnt it?? This unfathomable ground is still to remain.....
So we have to derive roses out of thorn beds.... mayb it is difficult ......but then, we r young...and can b at times strenuous, hard working and far more enthusiastic. And if we persist then ..... probably in our "40 somethings" , i m sure , we will find ourselves humming this song ....." those were the best days of my life.."( summer of 69').

Anonymous said...

yaar great words .
more later..........

Anonymous said...

I would not know what quater life crisis is, for I have never been in one.

But ofcourse I know what it must have felt like , to be so young...

And Sanjeev, this is the way the world works. Every one is in the rat race, and I once heard a person remarked that 'even if you win the race, you are still a rat'!!

You are young. And youth must be able to excuse you from many things; confusions in life, mistakes in choice, blunders in love, and many other things.

But no one said, being young is easy. It must be a wonderful experience. And enjoy it till it last, for youth does not stay forever.

Anonymous said...

life is always in crisis from some viewframe.
isliye we can feel all kinds of crisis quater-life, semi quarterlife , semi-semi-quarter.......
it is all in the perception..........

wahi baat hai door se dekha to ande ubal rahe the,
paas jaake dekha to, ganje uchhal rahe the..........

perception man perception!

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